I was just thinking how long it has been since I talked to you. I had been feeling kind of “lost” recently, but at this moment I feel like I am in a pretty good place I think.
Back in July 2017 when I posted about Patrick and I’s road trip, Family, I didn’t mention that about a month before we left we bought a new car, that we really couldn’t afford without me going back to work.
I hadn’t worked like a “Real” job for years. So, the day we bought the car, I went and applied at the local temp agency and figured I’d “put my toe in”, and see if I would be “ok” working again since I really wasn’t sure that I would be emotionally, or physically for that matter.
Well, they didn’t contact me for a job until the day before my birthday! Which in hindsight I feel like it was meant to happen the way it did. I had applied around June 29th, and didn’t get offered any jobs until Oct 12th! I had been kind of worried as time went by without a job, but I didn’t let it get me spun out of control. I just continued to work on “Me” and getting my sleep fixed (Finally!!!), my weight figured out (Still working on it.). Honestly looking back on it now, I can totally see I wasn’t emotionally, or physically ready until Oct 12th.
I have no idea how God the Universe and everything works, but after the time I have had here, I do know that I can trust in some things. Things happen as they are meant to it seems, sadly even the bad things. I also feel that good can come from even the worst things. I do not believe death is the worst thing actually. It’s just an end. ANYWAY!…I had faith and I got an offer to start part-time for 1 week on Oct 16th. I figured PERFECT. Part-time, I can work into it.
Well, I have worked there ever since. I worked part-time at first. Thankfully they let me, then at the beginning of the year, I committed to working full time. I’ve been working for a Social Security Disability Attorney as an office assistant. I most often work with the office manager/paralegal she is older than me by almost 14yrs, but she is AMAZING. I hope I can be as sharp as she is at her age. I also work with a couple awesome ladies that are even older than her and so active and sharp.
Haha, These ladies would probably think I’m seriously silly, but for some reason, I had this total misconception that at 48 I’ve got like one foot in the grave! I suppose in my defense I had been so depressed that in my mind I had just been “waiting to die”. I hope I never feel that way again. Especially when I am actually waiting to die. Those are moments TO LIVE!! ALL OF THEM ARE… (Even the ones I use up playing Love Nikki, Dress up Queen!) Whatever I choose!!
I really like my job. I feel like I’m helping people, and I get to use all the tools I learned in therapy to cope with stress, other people, and different hours then I was used to. I honestly am so thankful that I wasn’t offered this opportunity anytime before now. I wouldn’t have been able to handle it or enjoyed it as much as I am right now.
The main thing now that I’m having trouble with is Patrick and I get to where we once were. Well, now that I’ve typed that, maybe the thing is I should stop trying to compare to what we were in the beginning. We need to figure out where we want to be for the future…
The Future…That right there is something I didn’t really truly even acknowledge for most all my life so far. Not really, only in the past year and a half, maybe closer to two now, I’m not exactly sure. I’m sure I said it, but not truly believed that I had one. In my mind, EVERYONE else would have one, but I wouldn’t. Being told my whole life that “I was so fat and that I would die young” just never left me in a place to even contemplate my future. I was just fat and going to die. I still may die tomorrow and it may be weight related, but I am no longer just living to die. I am living to LIVE, and to figure out what that means to me.
What does it mean to LIVE? Spend my time doing things that help others, to love, to be kind, to find peace, share hope, and to spread light in this world! (NO Patrick, not just the light from my Nikki game while we are in bed and you’re trying to sleep.) I look forward to making new connections, not stress about them like I once did. Not to be always looking for approval (Although I still do, especially at work.). I am a work in progress, but I am my work in progress and It doesn’t matter what ANYONE ELSE THINKS!! I’m me! Love me or hate me. I don’t really care. There is absolutely NOTHING I can do about how you feel. That is your responsibility, not mine. I may have some fault in your feelings and why you are feeling them, but it is up to you to take responsibility to be upset by it, forgive it, talk with me about it to let me know, or BRUSH IT OFF! I may choose to change or not, but I am me and that’s all I can be. That isn’t me being mean, that is me being human, and just trying to live my life, not trying to cater to everyone else.
As my therapist used to ask me. Who’s driving your bus? I AM THE DRIVER NOW!!!
Ok wow! I didn’t even really feel like writing, I guess I had something to say after all I better wrap this up. I have stuff I want to do. Still REALLY weird to actually “want”. To “plan”, to dream about the future. I’m so excited, and if I were to die tomorrow I feel like I finally have lived at least!
Seems to me that the only thing worse than dying is not having ever lived. I am not sure what all brought me to this moment and this clarity, but I am thankful for it ALL. I know I will have bad days, but I finally have the presence of mind to deal with them.
Presence… OH! That’s another topic for another day!